A coworker joked that if I was in a room full of guys and they all made over $100,000 and only one made $40,000, I’d find the $40,000 man. Such is my plight. Why do I go after the underdog? It’s certainly not intentional. My last date was from match.com and there was no way of knowing what his income was. Sure enough, by my calculations, he’s at $40,000. It’s not that there’s anything wrong with a menial income, but at my age, 50, it impacts so many aspects of a relationship.

If I had known ahead of time how challenging it would be to work full time and raise two children I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t have signed up so quickly. But I have enough experience in working with chaos I know I’ll get through this too. It’s certainly not something you can prepare for! Time has never been so valuable and at long last I’m becoming more patient. I am grateful for so many zen moments! Here are a few things I’ve learned as a single parent: Use Your Words. I got t